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“Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be.”
– Sonia Ricotti
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE: Master the soft skills
3 Ways To Increase Your Emotional Intelligence At Work
In past editorials, we have covered what emotional intelligence is and why it’s essential to achieve your goals and objectives. At its core, it refers to an ability to control your emotions and make sound, practical decisions regardless of the situation. Of course, the only way to get better at something is through practice.
- Respond, Don’t React: When it comes to work or life, things do not always go according to plan. When something goes wrong, most people react quickly and do something irrational or counterproductive. Aim to be the person who takes that extra moment to digest the situation and then begin to provide a thoughtful and reasonable response.
- Be An Active Listener: How many times have you missed what someone said because you were too busy thinking about your response? Most people are guilty of this. The result is that important information gets lost. Make an effort to register what is being said to you and then bring that information up later in the conversation or a future meeting. If someone feels you are listening to them, they are more likely to continue communicating with you.
- Stay Motivated: As a high achiever, it is often up to you to lead the way for others. This is especially true when it comes to becoming and staying motivated. Highly emotionally intelligent people are those who stay motivated regardless of the situation. They are known for their motivational attitude and are frequently why the people around them will become energized and inspired.
ACHIEVERS’ ARMORY: Equip yourself with proven tools & tactics
Simplifying Your Money
Besides losing weight, one of the top resolutions or goals people have is to save money or learn how to budget their spending. Most people spend their cash without tracking where it is going. When they finally stop and look at it, they are shocked how much money they are wasting on things like eating out and pointless Amazon purchases. After the shock wears off, they become upset at how much money they could have saved for things that matter.
Simplifi by Quicken is a personal finance mobile application created to help people track their spending and achieve their financial goals. It gives the user a “big picture” view of their finances, including bank accounts, loans, credit cards, and investments. Then, it helps you create that long-overdue budget by setting spending limits and watchlists to ensure you do not spend more than you should.
Lastly, this app helps you finally help you start saving money every month. Together, you can set goals like how much you want to save or how much debt you want to pay off. You now have the accountability partner you have been looking for to set and reach your financial goals.
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NEXT LEVEL: Keep your success going
What Was I Doing Again?
We’ve all had that senior moment where we’re about to do something, and then we walk into the room or open up our computer and think, “…what was it I was going to do again?”. If you’re anything like the Achievers we talk to, this happens more than we care to admit. This could be because of the stress of thinking of 27 things at once, we’re distracted by something, or we can’t remember.
One of the best ways to re-remember what you were doing or want to do is retrace your exact steps. It’s a cliche for a reason, and it works, so when we say exact, we mean exact. Your brain recollects what you intended, which is different than recognition, which requires you to call forth knowledge rather than realize it. Think of a multiple-choice versus a fill-in-the-blank test, which would you rather take? Most would choose the multiple choice because you pick from a selection that can prompt your mind instead of recalling the answer from memory (or making something up when that fails).
By retracing our steps and re-doing actions as closely as we can, we prompt our minds to remember what we were originally thinking of when we first thought of what we wanted to do. The next time you’re about to look something up on YouTube and can’t remember what you wanted to look up, go back to the funny cat video you were watching just before, and it should come right back to you.
MINDSET: Train your brain to win
10 Ways to Become an Optimist, Or At Least a Little Less Pessimistic
Even if you are at the glass-half-empty end of the spectrum, there is still hope for you. It is never too late to change your thoughts. After all, your thoughts shape your reality.
Not everyone is a pessimist; sometimes, we just have bad days. Here are a few telltale signs that will let you know if you are pessimistic or not.
- You always think, “what if it doesn’t work out” rather than “what if it does?”
- You don’t get shocked when things go wrong.
- You easily give up.
- You find it difficult to forgive.
- You get annoyed by optimists.
- You engage in negative self-talk.
Below are five ways you can stop being pessimistic.
- Replace every negative thought with a positive one. Next time you catch yourself thinking negatively, stop and replace it with a positive idea. Try to find the silver lining and, if you can’t, imagine a completely irrelevant positive thought.
- Make a gratitude list. Focusing on the things you have rather than what you lack, creates abundance in your life—taking the little things for granted sows the seeds of pessimism. Every day, write down five things that you are thankful for, which will keep your focus on all the good in your life.
- Stop seeing setbacks as failures. Try to see setbacks for what they are: lessons to help you grow, a slight delay in your plan. Learn from them and do better next time.
- Do good things for others. If you’re so pessimistic, negative, or cynical, try to change the stuff that irritates you. If you want more kindness, compliment someone. If you want more appreciation, pay for a veteran’s gas or meal. If you want people to be more polite, hold the door open for people and tell them good morning. Doing these good things for others will change your reality.
- Find an outlet to release your negativity. Negative thoughts automatically and often unconsciously get channeled into your actions, even when you don’t intend for it. Channel this negative energy into something else like exercising, painting, or listening to heavy metal music.
SELF-DISCOVERY: Unleash the achiever within
Happy or Just Comfortable?
Are you happy? That’s a loaded question and probably too complicated to cover in one editorial. So, instead, I will put it differently. When it comes to the life you are living, would you say that you are generally happy or just comfortable? You may think that being comfortable leads to being happy, but that is not always the case. Here are a few examples to help illustrate my point and get you thinking.
- Your Job: You’ve been there for a few years, you know all the processes, and you like your co-workers. This makes you feel in control because you know what’s coming each day. You are comfortable. However, do you genuinely enjoy your job? Are you making the type of impact that you want to make?
- Your Relationship: You’ve been with someone for an extended period. You’ve met each other’s families, taken vacations together, and talked about taking the next steps. You know that person will always be there. It’s a comforting feeling to have a significant other as you get older, and everyone seems to pair off. However, do you feel a strong connection to that person? Do you enjoy being around them? Do they make you happy or annoyed most of the time?
- Your Spare Time: No matter how busy we are, we all have free time, even if it’s only a little. Some people spend it on their phone or watching Netflix, requiring little effort. How do you feel after your third straight day of binge-watching? It’s easy, so it’s comfortable, but is it providing real joy? Is there something else you could be doing that might be more challenging but will ultimately provide that satisfaction you might be missing?
As humans, we like to be comfortable, but that sometimes comes at a cost. If you feel sad, irritable, or that something is missing, examine the various areas of your life. Ask yourself: Am I happy the way things are going here, or am I just comfortable enough not to change?
FUN STUFF – TRIVIA
What publication was once advertised as “The daily diary of the American Dream”? Answer below.
NEWS BREAK: Stay informed
- One in five working-age adults is unemployed because Covid-19 upended their child care arrangements, according to new research from the Census Bureau and the Federal Reserve.
- The USPS engaged PR firm Weber Shandwick to help manage crisis messaging and combat some of the anti-Postal Service and mail-in voting rhetoric coming from the White House.
- More than 360 blazes are burning across California, spurring evacuations in Santa Cruz County and near wine country in the northern part of the state.
- Kamala Harris made history on Wednesday as the first Black woman to accept a spot on a major party’s presidential ticket and Joe Biden will give his acceptance speech tonight.
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Trivia answer: The Wall Street Journal