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October 19, 2020
“You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.”
ADVENTURE & LIFESTYLE: Live the life you want
Who Has What You Want?
An achiever’s life is filled continuously with trials and tribulations. We can lose sight of it all in the weeded trenches of the grind. Think to yourself: who has what I want? Whether that’s a beautiful home, financial success, a healthy body, and everything in between. What did they do to get where they are? Emulating success is dismissed by those who may think that they would be unoriginal, but how do you learn to do something? Copy someone who has done it!
Who has the lifestyle you want to lead? Do you know them personally? How did they get there? Babies learn how to do things by watching others do things. Okay, we’re being silly, but it’s true.
A YouTuber does this shamelessly by going up to super-car owners and asking them what they do for a living, which is a great way to start a conversation and get an idea of how to get what you want. How else are you going to get an idea of what it takes to get where people have gone.
You don’t have to go step by step along a path paved by someone else, but knowing how they got somewhere is absolutely helpful. One of our readers has done this in his professional life. BrainsandGains podcast host knew he wanted a comfortable living without having to kill himself in the office 70+ hours a week (so a career in finance was out of the question). Dentistry provided the lifestyle he wanted, and all that was necessary was to go through the schooling.
Observe and take note of who has what you want in life. Start emulating.
ACHIEVERS’ ARMORY: Equip yourself with proven tools & tactics
Keep Calm and Meditate On
Stay calm and carry on, you’ve heard it before. The message is simple, but the execution is not. What does “calm” mean? What in your life needs to change for you to achieve this level of calmness? One thing’s for sure: you need to maintain focus, gain energy, and relax to continue operating at a high level.
Calm is a meditation tool used to help you focus throughout the day, relax at the end of it, and achieve the type of sleep you need to perform the following day. It helps the user achieve this through over 100 guided meditations covering topics such as sleep, anxiety, focus, stress, and gratitude.
Unlike similar programs, Calm offers two unique services to its users: First is an option to access a list of relaxing bedtime stories narrated by celebrities like Matthew McConaughey, Bob Ross (can someone say ASMR?), and comedian Stephen Fry. New sleep stories are added each week for users who find stories put them at ease and help them fall asleep faster. Second, Calm offers a monthly masterclass on mindfulness.
Claim your free trial and explore the benefits Calm can offer you here.
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE: Master the soft skills
Organize Your Weekly Schedule using 4 Time Blocks
Focus blocks: length 90-120 minutes – use when you’re especially creative, inspired, and able to do high-level work that requires focus.
Social blocks: length 90-120 minutes – use when you’re primed and energetically in the right space to meet other people.
Admin blocks: length 30-60 minutes – use when you’re not in the zone to do the work that requires intense focus or heavy thinking, but there are still other types of work you can do effectively.
Recovery blocks: length depends – use for activities that recharge you, such as exercise, meditation, self-care, and intentional sitting around doing nothing.
SELF-DISCOVERY: Unleash the Achiever within
I (Kyle) held off calling myself an entrepreneur for a very long time. The reason being that I did not feel I embodied anything I had learned about what it meant to be one. For example, I have never worked a 100-hour week in my life. Personally, I highly doubt that most of the people who claim they have actually do so themselves. However, it makes for good social content, so I will leave them alone.
I don’t work on Sundays. I imagine that statement would stun several workaholics. It may even cause them to have an emergency meeting to revoke my entrepreneur membership. The point I’m getting at is, I consider myself to be an anti-entrepreneur. Yes, I own my own business, and yes, I work nights and weekends like other business owners. However, I also enjoy my downtime, put family and friends first, and never forget why I started this journey in the first place.
I don’t want anyone reading this thinking to start something for yourself; you have to sacrifice your life, work crazy hours, and say goodbye to anything you find fun or relaxing. It’s just not true. First, it honestly depends on what you want to start. If you are looking to challenge Jeff Bezos and become the next Amazon, then yes, forget everything I’m saying right now. However, if you are thinking about creating a side hustle or becoming a freelancer, it’s important to understand what you are getting yourself into.
You will have to make sacrifices. You will have to work nights and weekends and probably for little pay as you build your company. You will have to stay at that full-time job for a little while until you have built up enough consistent business to leave. It will be hard, but it is not debilitating. It does not require you to make extreme sacrifices like breaking up with your significant other, selling your belongings, or telling your friends you can’t waste your time with them because you are too busy trying to be rich.
Have I made sacrifices? Yes. Have I ever missed important family or friend events? No. Starting your own thing means knowing where you want to go, what you are willing to sacrifice to get there, and determining how long it will take to arrive. It’s important to remember that whatever you do next, you have the right to do it on your terms and schedule.
HEALTH & WELLNESS: Keep healthy in the hustle
A Stare Down with Your Emotional Problems and Past – What is EMDR therapy?
EMDR stands for eye movement desensitization and reprocessing. It is a therapy proven to help reduce symptoms related to depression, trauma and PTSD, anxiety, addictions, and phobias.
How EMDR works:
EMDR has a direct effect on how the brain processes information, releasing emotional experiences that are trapped in the nervous system.
A trained therapist works with you to recall a disturbing thought, feeling, or memory. Then comes bilateral stimulation. Bilateral stimulation is like watching a ping-pong game, back and forth. It is something that occurs in a moving side-to-side pattern; for example, moving your eyes from left to right.
The disturbing memories are reprocessed by the brain, resulting in painful feelings being exchanged for more resolved, peaceful feelings. Hindsight is really 20/20.
Research shows a success rate for EMDR in the treatment of 80-90 % of PTSD in up to half the time of talk therapy (or cognitive behavioral therapy).
Check out this TED Talk about EMDR to learn more.
NEWS BREAK: Stay informed
- NY health officials shut down an ultra-Orthodox wedding planned for Monday that could have had brought 10,000 guests to Brooklyn, near one of New York City’s coronavirus hot spots.
- The Senate is set to vote this week on a $500 billion “skinny” economic recovery bill that does not appear to include an additional round of $1,200 direct payments to Americans.
- More than 26 million people had voted as of Saturday, according to the U.S. Elections Project.
1% BETTER: Improve each day
Admit your mistake before someone proves you were wrong.