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September 16, 2020
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“Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present”
LEADERS & INFLUENCERS: Learn from the best
Part 1: Lisa Jeffs
Today’s Leaders and Influencers editorial is showcasing female entrepreneur and career coach, Lisa Jeffs. Lisa is the owner of Lisa Jeffs Enterprises, an organization that focuses on helping working professionals transition from their career, discovering their purpose, and ultimately starting their own business.
Lisa started as a counselor for at-risk youth in Toronto, helping teens overcome issues such as depression and addiction. Lisa recalls the moment she realized that she was in the wrong line of work. “I believe it was back in 2012 when I was driving to work and was stuck in traffic that I had a catalyst moment or an epiphany, you might say. I realized that I could not carry on like this anymore. There has to be a different way. There has to be something else. This cannot be my path in life.”
What’s exciting and inspiring about Lisa’s story is what happened next. She did not make a smooth transition into coaching. “I started to explore different types of business ideas. I look back now and can’t believe how far off I was with some of my ideas. However, that period of discovery allowed me to get creative about the possibilities of what I can do and make a living off of.”
When it came to finding her next career move, Lisa did not get it right on the first try. She tried and failed multiple times before she found her true calling. Let this be a lesson to anyone unsure of which idea they want to act on first. The key is to act on something and let your mistakes be your guide to finding what you are really looking for.
Finally, Lisa found coaching and realized she enjoyed the act of helping and guiding people towards the answers they were searching for. “I began to see how my counseling skills could translate into coaching. I really loved helping people with health and nutrition, so that led me to coach in those fields. I did that for about a year before I realized it was not aligning with my values.
Come back tomorrow for Part 2 of our interview with Lisa Jeffs, where we learn about how she got into coaching professionals, the type of mindset she had developed for herself, and more!
SELF-DISCOVERY: Unleash the achiever within
Trusting Your Intuition
Are you the hardest person to sell? Whatever solutions or ideas you pitch to yourself, drowned out by self-doubt?
Trusting your gut can be scary and challenging, but it’s an important skill to have as you navigate through love, life, and work.
Here are five insights into developing and honing your sense of intuition:
- Slow down and observe “knowing” moments. The “knowing” is our intuition, which we too frequently ignore because we don’t recognize it. When we slow down, we can see more clearly and feel a guiding nudge towards the next thing.
- Reflect on your regrets. Think of when you didn’t listen to your gut instinct, and you’ve instantly regretted it. By doing this, you’ll become more attuned to your intuition.
- Listen to your first response. Don’t “edit” your voice and, instead, candidly listen to yourself. You won’t give your self-doubt a chance to shine through.
- Break down your walls and trust yourself. You might doubt yourself because of fear or anxiety and then overthink a situation. Avoid analysis paralysis by trusting yourself that your intuition is guiding you the right way.
- Tune into the silence. Author Glennon Doyle popularized this way of digging deep enough within yourself to find your quiet place where your intuition or “knowing” lies. She teaches how to know: Moment of uncertainty arises; breathe, turn inward, sink; feel around for the Knowing; do the next thing it nudges you toward; let it stand (don’t explain); repeat forever.
ACHIEVERS’ ARMORY: Equip yourself with proven tools & tactics
Raise your hand if this sounds like you. You went to college, studied hard, earned a degree, and got a job in your field of choice. Still, over the years, you have felt like something was missing in your education. You now find yourself needing to learn new skills to keep up with your industry, earn a promotion, or make a career shift. If this sounds like you, Skill Success is here to help.
Skill Success is an on-demand platform that offers courses taught by professionals on in-demand topics. Their course catalog breaks into several categories, including technology, project management, career development, personal development, marketing, soft skills, lifestyle, etc. Each category offers courses to help you learn more about your industry and gain a new skill you need to build your business or side hustle.
Each course offers a certificate of completion at its conclusion. If the promotion you seek at work requires a specific skill or knowledge of a program, a certificate from this type of platform may give you the edge you seek. Each course also comes with a series of quizzes to ensure you retain the information.
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MINDSET: Train your brain to win
3 Ways to Amplify Your Daily Mental Growth
One of the amazing things about life is it is incredibly compassionate and benevolent. Allow us to explain. No matter how difficult a situation or big of a mistake we make, it always (barring utter catastrophe or tragedy) gives us the opportunity for redemption in the very next moment. Life allows us to become better than we were yesterday. Let’s take advantage of it.
We thought we’d share with you three techniques to train your brain to be better so you can break through challenges, become more intelligent and resilient, and learn to think analytically.
- Look at the other side of the coin. Our emotions are a rollercoaster that sometimes takes us away. We can all think of when we made an emotionally charged decision or said something hurtful because we were just that agitated. Our emotions are just a reflection of how we perceive a situation. So, as hard as it may be, the next time you feel worried, stressed, or frustrated beyond belief, take a step back and don’t overindulge your emotions. Try asking yourself what the situation can teach you, how you can be made better, and how you can be grateful for it. Look for the silver lining. They make movies about those.
- Delay gratification. Life is all about delayed gratification. Sometimes we are faced with choices that may require willpower or stress in the short term for long term gain. Think of exercising or dieting to shed some pounds. You’ll skip the Netflix watching and hop on the treadmill each night, so you’ll see the results you hope for in a month. It’s hard to fight your instantaneous and pressing desires, but you have to. Ask yourself what you truly want, what is the most useful thing to do, and the “cost” of taking the easy way versus the hard way.
- Use the power of why. Sometimes, life feels like an enormous jigsaw puzzle someone plopped in front of you with no reference, no place to start, no knowing what’s up, down, left, or right, and certainly missing a few pieces. It requires seemingly endless bouts of effort from us. Understanding something is key, especially when we try to come to terms with something we didn’t expect, or that’s incredibly disappointing. This approach, also known as the 5 WHYs, was made famous by people at Toyota who used it to solve a production issue. It forces you to dig deeper into every answer you give yourself, and while it can feel frustrating at first, it’s a great way to strengthen your reasoning.
SOCIAL CAPITAL: Build a powerful network
Empathy is the capacity to understand or feel what another person is experiencing and place oneself in another’s position. This is different than sympathy, which is the act of feeling sorry for someone. People often think they are practicing empathy when, in reality, they are only practicing sympathy.
Truly feeling empathy for someone is complicated. However, if done correctly and genuinely, it can help build relationships and improve communication. To feel empathy, you must stop and attempt to understand what they are going through. For example, if your boss is always in a bad mood, you have two choices. You can get offended and have a strained relationship, or you can attempt to understand that his rudeness is probably born out of being overworked and underappreciated.
You are not excusing his rudeness but instead being empathetic to his situation. Once you realize this, you can attempt to support him by taking on additional responsibilities or letting him know the team appreciates him. By practicing empathy, you have strengthened your relationship and put yourself in a better position to succeed.
Empathy is difficult because we almost take on the feelings of someone else. We have to understand why they feel that way and determine if there is anything we can do in support of them. If you can master this and become an empathic person, you will open up new doors of growth, communication, and achievement.
FUN STUFF – TRIVIA
What kitchen item was illegal in NYC until 1997? Answer below.
1% BETTER: Improve each day
The next time you see a FedEx, UPS, or even USPS truck in your neighborhood, look at the time. This way, you’ll know about what time each carrier delivers in your neighborhood for the next time you’re expecting a delivery.
Trivia answer: Garbage disposals.