The official definition of Emotional Intelligence is “the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.” In simple English, it’s being able to control your emotions in a way that allows you to build a favorable reputation, healthy relationships, and achieve your goals.
Having emotional intelligence is the mark of a true Achiever and is something we should all continually strive for. Equally important, the people we associate with daily should have these qualities as well. Determine where you and others fall on this spectrum with three signs that someone has high emotional intelligence.
- Benefit From Criticism: How you accept and process criticism can be the difference between being wildly successful or incredibly bitter. When someone criticizes you, really digest what they are saying. Is it legitimate? Do they have your best interests in mind? Are they invested in your success? Analyze their comments and find a way to become better as a result.
- Pause Before Responding: Too many people don’t think about what they’re about to say. When someone else is speaking, instead of listening, they’re preparing a rebuttal. We’re all like this at times. It may sound trivial, but pausing and thinking when delivering an articulate response shows maturity and respect for the individual you are conversing with.
- Apologize: Admitting when we’re wrong about something can be difficult and uncomfortable. We all know people who simply refuse to apologize when they’ve made a mistake. This leads to a reputation of stubbornness and strained relationships. Being able to apologize when you’re wrong (or someone thinks you’re wrong) will gain you the respect and admiration of your network and bolster your standing as an authentic individual.