Helping you to stop making excuses for yourself!
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” When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. “
– Lao Tzu
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE: Master the soft skills
The Anatomy of Charisma
John Antonakis, a professor of organizational behavior, has identified a series of what he calls Charismatic Leadership Tactics (CLTs). CLTs include the use of metaphors, storytelling, and nonverbal communication methods like open posture, and animated, symbolic gestures at critical moments.
And we recognize CLTs almost instantly. In 2005, Princeton psychologist Alexander Todorov showed individuals two side by side pictures of competing candidates and asked them to rate their competence solely based on their appearance. The individuals’ snap-second judgments predicted with almost 70 percent accuracy which candidate went on to win the election (winning being a measuring of their charisma).
“We decide very quickly whether a person possesses many of the traits we feel are important…” Todorov said at the time. “It appears that we are hard-wired to draw these inferences in a fast, unreflective way.”
Using functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI), Todorov demonstrated snap judgments carry a powerful emotional charge because they are associated with activity in the amygdala, a primitive brain structure responsible for the fight-or-flight response.
Jochen Menges, a lecturer in organizational behavior at the University of Cambridge, terms the emotional impact of charisma the “awestruck effect.” Menges recreated the “awestruck effect” in the laboratory and found that subjects exposed to charismatic leaders’ videos suppressed their external emotional response out of automatic deference. Psychologists know that when we suppress our emotions, not only do those emotions increase their intensity, but we also suffer a cognitive detriment.
Menges found that students were far more likely to report they remembered the exact contents of speeches delivered by charismatic individuals. Yet, written tests revealed those exposed to charismatic speakers remembered far less than those exposed to the non-charismatic speakers.
Other studies by Richard Boyatzis and Anthony Jack used fMRI to demonstrate that emotional speakers engage with a neural pathway called the default mode network (DMN). The DMN spans multiple areas of the brain and is associated with daydreaming, thoughts about others, and remembering things in the past. DMN activation suppresses the circuits we use for analytical thinking—those involved in executive functions, planning, reasoning, attention, and problem-solving. That’s why we find ourselves in this mesmerized, awestruck state.
In his bestseller Thinking Fast, Thinking Slow, psychologist Daniel Kahneman outlines two separate parallel decision circuits: the intuitive and the rational system. The intuitive system is far faster than the rational system but is prone to unconscious factors that result in irrational biases. But the slower, more rational system serves as a check on unconscious tendencies—when we take the time to analyze them.
We can learn not to be taken in by charisma.
ACHIEVERS’ ARMORY: Equip yourself with proven tools & tactics
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THE FIRST STEP: Seize the opportunity
The 5 Excuses You Need To Stop Telling Yourself
Here are the five excuses I had to stop telling myself before I could achieve success in my own businesses:
There will always be a reason not to do something. Too many people I know never get started because they let these types of excuses hold them back. Once you conquer this, you can take the next steps towards your goals and dreams.
MINDSET: Train your brain to win
Now or Never…or Maybe Sometime in Between?
In our twenties and thirties, we are often reminded by ourselves or others with “YOLO: you only live once” or “have fun while you still can.” These messages encourage risk-taking behaviors that indulge in the now-or-never lifestyle of partying, multiple partners, blowing off responsibilities, laziness, and couch-surfing. These statements make living in the present (or only for the present) easy, but what about the future? Why is connecting the present to the future so tricky sometimes?
Often we think of our lives in terms of either our current age or being nearly dead. We ignore all of the time in between. We need ways to remember that life persists (and is excellent) after our twenties or thirties.
This bias for the present puts a lot of psychological distance between now and the future. It’s easy to toss marriage, kids, a busy career, and buying a house into the abstract “sometime later” bucket. However, the further away these things seem and the more we put them off, the less we think about them, plan for them, and work towards them.
Creating a rough timeline of how you want your life to go is the start. Once you define what you wish your whatever-something years to look like, what to do with your present years becomes more urgent, clear, and defined. Planning things for the future is a way of practicing being future-oriented with your current activities. Use a timeline to see time for what it is: limited.
MONEY: Become wealthy
7 Financial Habits of the Millionaire Next Door
This is the how to become a millionaire without developing some life-changing app.
Can you spot your millionaire neighbor?
FUN STUFF – RIDDLE ME THIS
People make me, save me, change me, raise me. What am I?
NEWS BREAK: Stay informed
1% BETTER: Improve each day
Identify one excuse you are going to stop making. (RE: Mindset)
Riddle answer: Money