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INSPIRATION

” When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. “

– Lao Tzu

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE: Master the soft skills

The Anatomy of Charisma


Charismatics can make us feel charmed and fabulous about ourselves. Charismatics can inspire us for good, but their charisma can also be dangerous when used to advance their agenda, enhance their power, or manipulate others. But charismatics aren’t the only cause of our awestruck state. Studies show charisma is not just something a person alone possesses or does onto us. It’s created by our perceptions, particularly when we are feeling vulnerable.

John Antonakis, a professor of organizational behavior, has identified a series of what he calls Charismatic Leadership Tactics (CLTs). CLTs include the use of metaphors, storytelling, and nonverbal communication methods like open posture, and animated, symbolic gestures at critical moments.

And we recognize CLTs almost instantly. In 2005, Princeton psychologist Alexander Todorov showed individuals two side by side pictures of competing candidates and asked them to rate their competence solely based on their appearance. The individuals’ snap-second judgments predicted with almost 70 percent accuracy which candidate went on to win the election (winning being a measuring of their charisma).

“We decide very quickly whether a person possesses many of the traits we feel are important…” Todorov said at the time. “It appears that we are hard-wired to draw these inferences in a fast, unreflective way.”

Using functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI), Todorov demonstrated snap judgments carry a powerful emotional charge because they are associated with activity in the amygdala, a primitive brain structure responsible for the fight-or-flight response.

Jochen Menges, a lecturer in organizational behavior at the University of Cambridge, terms the emotional impact of charisma the “awestruck effect.” Menges recreated the “awestruck effect” in the laboratory and found that subjects exposed to charismatic leaders’ videos suppressed their external emotional response out of automatic deference. Psychologists know that when we suppress our emotions, not only do those emotions increase their intensity, but we also suffer a cognitive detriment.

Menges found that students were far more likely to report they remembered the exact contents of speeches delivered by charismatic individuals. Yet, written tests revealed those exposed to charismatic speakers remembered far less than those exposed to the non-charismatic speakers.

Other studies by Richard Boyatzis and Anthony Jack used fMRI to demonstrate that emotional speakers engage with a neural pathway called the default mode network (DMN). The DMN spans multiple areas of the brain and is associated with daydreaming, thoughts about others, and remembering things in the past. DMN activation suppresses the circuits we use for analytical thinking—those involved in executive functions, planning, reasoning, attention, and problem-solving. That’s why we find ourselves in this mesmerized, awestruck state.

In his bestseller Thinking Fast, Thinking Slow, psychologist Daniel Kahneman outlines two separate parallel decision circuits: the intuitive and the rational system. The intuitive system is far faster than the rational system but is prone to unconscious factors that result in irrational biases. But the slower, more rational system serves as a check on unconscious tendencies—when we take the time to analyze them.

We can learn not to be taken in by charisma.

ACHIEVERS’ ARMORY: Equip yourself with proven tools & tactics

Light Up Your Brand With The Spark It Needs


People love to be visually stimulated. Beautiful images are what get people to stop scrolling on social media. Stunning graphics and videos are what attract customers to brand websites and get them to stay. Each brand must tell their own unique story to attract and retain an audience.

We all know of websites and brands that utilize imagery to perfection. As a small business owner, you may believe this type of design is out of reach without an expensive graphic designer. This is where AdobeSpark comes into play.

AdobeSpark is a design program built for beginners who want to create stunning visual stories for their brand and online presence. They have leveled the playing field and ensured that anyone could create high-quality graphics and instantly share them with their target audience. This program is ideal for creating eye-catching social graphics, magazine quality website pages, professional-looking short videos.

Learn about how you can utilize Adobe Spark to tell your brand story and the fantastic features you can take advantage of immediately by clicking here.

THE FIRST STEP: Seize the opportunity

The 5 Excuses You Need To Stop Telling Yourself


This editorial is all about how to take that first step to start a business, side hustle, or create a better career and future for yourself. We cover topics such as sales, marketing, and defining your message. However, before you can do any of that, you have to stop with the excuses. I am referring to the excuses that will undoubtedly come up when things get tough.

Here are the five excuses I had to stop telling myself before I could achieve success in my own businesses:

  1. I Am Not Smart Enough. This excuse comes in many forms, but it basically comes down to not feeling educated or qualified enough to chase what you want for yourself. No one expects you to be an expert, and no one cares where you went to school. The only thing that matters is producing a quality product that people will want to buy.
  2. I Don’t Have Enough Time. Believe it or not, we all have extra time to spare. The free time you have is being used by checking your phone, scrolling through social media, or watching mindless TV. Even if you can designate one hour a day to your goals, you will be making progress. It may not happen as quickly as you want, but it’s progress.
  3. I Don’t Have The Money. Great ideas tend to die once the inventor realizes that they need money to make them a reality. While you will need some money to get started, it is more than doable. Again, your extra cash is hiding in unnecessary purchases. Also, you would be amazed to learn how many free programs and platforms are available for new business owners.
  4. I’ll Do It Someday. Here is a hard truth I had to learn early on. No one is coming to save you from your life. You are the only person who can implement change. Also, change means actually taking action doing something. Nothing is going to fall into your lap. You have to make a plan and work for it. If you are not careful, you will someday yourself out of life.
  5. It’s Too Much Of A Risk. It’s only natural to talk ourselves out of something that our brain deems risky. However, deciding to start your own business, if done correctly, is not that risky at all. Continue to work your day job, so you have enough money to pay your bills. Avoid going into debt, if possible. If you do those two things, then the only risk you are taking is spending some of your free time and cash on something that might not work out.

There will always be a reason not to do something. Too many people I know never get started because they let these types of excuses hold them back. Once you conquer this, you can take the next steps towards your goals and dreams.

MINDSET: Train your brain to win

Now or Never…or Maybe Sometime in Between?


If your heart is like an open highway, great, but to live it your way, you’re going to have to relax with the now-or-never-isms (sorry, Bon Jovi).

In our twenties and thirties, we are often reminded by ourselves or others with “YOLO: you only live once” or “have fun while you still can.” These messages encourage risk-taking behaviors that indulge in the now-or-never lifestyle of partying, multiple partners, blowing off responsibilities, laziness, and couch-surfing. These statements make living in the present (or only for the present) easy, but what about the future? Why is connecting the present to the future so tricky sometimes?

Often we think of our lives in terms of either our current age or being nearly dead. We ignore all of the time in between. We need ways to remember that life persists (and is excellent) after our twenties or thirties.

This bias for the present puts a lot of psychological distance between now and the future. It’s easy to toss marriage, kids, a busy career, and buying a house into the abstract “sometime later” bucket. However, the further away these things seem and the more we put them off, the less we think about them, plan for them, and work towards them.

Creating a rough timeline of how you want your life to go is the start. Once you define what you wish your whatever-something years to look like, what to do with your present years becomes more urgent, clear, and defined. Planning things for the future is a way of practicing being future-oriented with your current activities. Use a timeline to see time for what it is: limited.

MONEY: Become wealthy

7 Financial Habits of the Millionaire Next Door


I highly recommend the book, The Millionaire Next Door. It’s not a glamorous portrayal of the mega-millionaire lifestyle, but instead an accurate account of ordinary millionaires some of whom are probably your neighbors.

This is the how to become a millionaire without developing some life-changing app.

  1. They live below their means.
  2. They allocate their time to build wealth.
  3. They believe that financial independence is more important than displaying high social status.
  4. Their parents did not provide economic outpatient care.
  5. Their adult children are economically self sufficient.
  6. They are proficient in targeting market opportunities.
  7. They chose the right occupation.

Can you spot your millionaire neighbor?

FUN STUFF – RIDDLE ME THIS

People make me, save me, change me, raise me. What am I?

Answer below.

NEWS BREAK: Stay informed

  • Nextdoor ends its program of forwarding suspicions to police.
  • Tom Petty’s family issues a cease and desist order to Trump campaign who used his 1989 hit “I Won’t Back Down” at the rally in Tulsa.
  • The WHO reported the largest single-day increase in COVID-19 cases.

1% BETTER: Improve each day

Identify one excuse you are going to stop making. (RE: Mindset)

Riddle answer: Money