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October 16, 2020
“Winning isn’t everything, but wanting to win is.”
LEADERS & INFLUENCERS: Learn from the best
Making moves in your life requires enormous amounts of grit and determination. One “gritty” person to inspire was Gloria Vanderbilt, the author, socialite, and fashion designer who died last summer.
Angela Duckworth, an expert on grit, says, “Grit is passion and sustained persistence applied toward long-term achievement, with no particular concern for rewards or recognition along the way. It combines resilience, ambition and self-control in the pursuit of goals that take months, years, or even decades.”
Here are some lessons about grit and determination from Vanderbilt:
- Live life on your own terms. Living life on your own terms and doing things that you want to do, makes seeing things through even when they’re difficult so much easier. Even though Vanderbilt was born into wealth and inherited a fortune, she was determined to make her own way.
- Forget about balance. Often, focusing on one or a few things at the exclusion of others is the cost of excellence. Before Vanderbilt invented her famous jeans, she spent years honing her ability as a designer. Her success followed years want of balance. Most people have breakout success after years of hard work and focus on a singular goal.
- Learn how to receive criticism. You will face critics and need to learn to take away the good, use it, and not let the rest deter you from your goals. Although the media scrutinized Vanderbilt for most of her life, she learned not to let it bother her. Her son, Anderson Cooper, said, “As a teenager, she tried to avoid the spotlight, but reporters and cameramen followed her everywhere. She was determined to make something of her life, determined to make a name for herself, and find the love she so desperately needed.”
- Enjoy and appreciate the challenges in life. Staying determined means that you need to enjoy whatever challenges life throws at you. She said she wouldn’t leave her children much money to instill this value in her children. Anderson Cooper understood how inheriting a large sum could reduce someone’s motivation and once called inherited money, an “initiative sucker.” (Vanderbilt left most of her fortune to him, but he was already successful in his own right.)
- Be optimistic and don’t let grief consume you. Optimism helps you stay the course and believe that you will eventually succeed in your goal. Vanderbilt’s optimism was tested after her son Carter committed suicide in 1988. She addressed this tragedy with her optimism. She explained, “Some people … who knew Carter would start to talk about him and then say, ‘Oh, I’m sorry.’ And I say, ‘No, I love to talk about him. More, more, more.’ Because that brings him alive and it brings him closer and it means that he hasn’t been forgotten.” Some might also call her optimistic for never ceasing to look for a “great love” despite having been married four times. Others might say she was a hopeless romantic.
In life, you’re going to need all of the grit and determination you can muster. Use Gloria Vanderbilt as an example.
ACHIEVERS’ ARMORY: Equip yourself with proven tools & tactics
Your Daily Dose Of Actionable Advice
Essential-worker Ellen commutes 30 minutes to work daily and squeezes in a podcast episode each day during her car ride. She has to listen to a different podcast each day because the hosts she watches only post weekly.
Work-from-home Walter doesn’t have a commute or the block of time to dedicate 30 or 60 minutes to a podcast episode. We’re all a little bit more like Walter right now and, yet, we still want a daily dose of knowledge.
The Darren Daily On-Demand podcast is the perfect solution for anyone looking for that quick dose of inspiration, motivation, and actionable advice daily. Darren Hardy is a multi-time best-selling author and owner of several million-dollar businesses. Each morning, he posts a new episode that lasts no more than 5 minutes. He covers developing the right mindset, improving your selling skills, surrounding yourself with the right people, performing self-discovery, and a host of other topics perfect for Walter and achievers like you.
I (Kyle) am an avid fan of this podcast and listen to each morning while getting ready. Even though it is only 5 minutes, it always includes a piece of actionable advice that I can implement later that day. It’s the perfect podcast to form the habits necessary to be a lifetime-learner.
Go listen to Darren Daily On-Demand now (and by “now” we mean after you finish reading our ever-fabulous newsletter).
ADVENTURE & LIFESTYLE: Live the life you want
3 Ways to Prioritize Confidently and Effectively
1. The Eisenhower Matrix
This matrix comes from Dwight D. Eisenhower, who served the United States as president from 1953 to 1961.
There are four actions and four levels of urgency and importance.
- Delete: low urgency and low importance – this task is not important or urgent which means you shouldn’t be doing it.
- Decide: low urgency and high importance – this task is important, but not yet urgent. Schedule a time for when you’ll do it.
- Delegate: high urgency and low importance – this task is not important, but it is urgent. See if someone else can do it for you.
- Do today: high urgency and high importance – this task is important and urgent. You definitely want to make it today’s priority.
2. SMITN – Single Most Important Task Now
- Make a list of your SMITNs and when you complete your highest value task, continue on to your next highest value task, and so on.
- Single – one activity, not top 3 priorities, and no multi-tasking.
- Most Important- your #1 task in your to-do list. Maybe none of the other to-dos matter unless this one gets done.
- Task – an action or activity you must do.
- Now – at this very moment.
3. Pareto Principle or 80/20 rule
- The Pareto principle comes from the economist Vilfredo Pareto (try saying that ten times fast), who observed that 80% of effects usually stem from only 20% of the causes. The key takeaway here is that the majority of the results come from a minority of the causes. You only need to identify the top 20% of actions or highest value tasks and focus on those first. The 80/20 rule forces you to focus on the critical few instead of the trivial many. Ask yourself: which 20% of my tasks would generate the most impact or income? Which 20% of my tasks is the best use of my time, energy, attention, and money right now? Which 20% of my activities make me the happiest or most fulfilled?
THE FIRST STEP: Seize the opportunity
Enjoy The Ride
My (Kyle) coaching clients often ask what advice I have for them when it comes to starting their side hustle or business. When I give them my answer, it often surprises them. They think it will be some profound and meaningful piece of advice that will change their life. It isn’t. My advice to anyone who asks that question is simple. Enjoy the ride.
As an entrepreneur or side-hustler, you get fixated on your end goal. Launch your business. Sell $1,000 worth of products. Quit your job. Whatever it is, you get so focused on the destination you forget to enjoy the journey. The journey is all the hard work you put in while trying to get to that final destination. Take a moment to enjoy those long nights, the moments you finally come up with a game-changing idea, and the feeling of making that first few sales.
You will want to enjoy the ride for two reasons. One, it makes arriving at your destination that much sweeter. Perhaps your goal is like mine was, leave my corporate job, and run my own company. When the day arrives and becomes a reality, thinking about all the hard work you put into it helps you enjoy the moment that much more.
The second reason is that if you don’t enjoy the process, you will quit because of it. If you don’t enjoy the late nights, they will eventually burn you out. If you can’t laugh when a partnership goes south, or a client loses their common sense, then your frustration will boil over and you will lose your passion and interest. The only way to survive is to enjoy everything that happens along the way.
So, enjoy the ride, all of it, and if you can’t enjoy something, make sure you learn from it.
HEALTH & WELLNESS: Keep healthy in the hustle
Who doesn’t love the spa? Have you ever been? Depending on where you live actually going might not be the brightest idea currently, but trying a spa trip out (under the right circumstances) is worth the time. We were turned onto the spa by an Achiever reader of ours, and we haven’t looked back. We were a bit skeptical at first, but we’re open to new things, and man, did that payoff. Island Spa in Edison, NJ, was our day trip, and we enjoyed the sh*t out of our time there. The entire environment was relaxing, comfortable and just eased the tension in our shoulders.
There are different types of spas, day spas, spa treatments, and saunas that range from mellow Korean style to intense Russian style. Whatever floats your boat. Many would dismiss a spa day as too feminine (you ladies out there are on to something), or find it unappealing without ever trying it. To that, we say, “you’re missing out.”
We don’t have to travel or cozy up to some sweaty people during COVID, but you can give yourself a spa treatment at home easily with some relaxing effects. The important thing is to take time away from the hustle and bustle and devote time specifically for relaxing. Carve out a few hours of guilt-free relaxation. Draw yourself a hot bath or steam shower and enjoy the extra time. Bath salts are fun, and aromatherapy and salt lamps may offer the ambiance for relaxation.
Try a spa day or at least a spa hour at home.
FUN STUFF – TRIVIA
What product’s trademark is written in the Spencerian script of bookkeeper Frank Robinson? Answer below.
1% BETTER: Improve each day
For one week, look at the sugar count of everything you eat and drink.
TRIVIA ANSWER: Coca-Cola