Here’s how to know if you’re ready to give feedback (not criticism):

  1. You’re prepared to sit next to the person rather than across from them.
  2. You’re willing to put the problem in front of you rather than between you.
  3. You’re ready to listen, ask questions, and accept that you may not fully understand the issue.
  4. You want to acknowledge what they do well instead of picking apart their mistakes.
  5. You recognize their strengths and how they can use them to address their challenges.
  6. You can hold them accountable without shaming or blaming them.
  7. You’re willing to own your part in the problem or the solution.
  8. You can genuinely thank them for their efforts rather than criticize them for their failings.
  9. You can talk about how resolving these challenges will lead to their growth and opportunities.
  10. You can model vulnerability and openness that you expect to see from them.

Employ this in your professional and personal interactions and relationships.

From “Daring Greatly” by Brene Brown.