Here’s how to know if you’re ready to give feedback (not criticism):
- You’re prepared to sit next to the person rather than across from them.
- You’re willing to put the problem in front of you rather than between you.
- You’re ready to listen, ask questions, and accept that you may not fully understand the issue.
- You want to acknowledge what they do well instead of picking apart their mistakes.
- You recognize their strengths and how they can use them to address their challenges.
- You can hold them accountable without shaming or blaming them.
- You’re willing to own your part in the problem or the solution.
- You can genuinely thank them for their efforts rather than criticize them for their failings.
- You can talk about how resolving these challenges will lead to their growth and opportunities.
- You can model vulnerability and openness that you expect to see from them.
Employ this in your professional and personal interactions and relationships.
From “Daring Greatly” by Brene Brown.