Remember that time you really messed up?
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“It is in our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.”
– Taylor Benson
NEXT LEVEL: Keep your success going
The Three Part Formula For Becoming Exceptional
Despite this lack of “defining quality,” there is a formula that can be a starting point for understanding what it takes to become the crème de la crème.
Depending on your chosen profession, 50% of your achievement is genetic and comes from the innate abilities you are born with. Michael Phelps has the torso of swordfish, the legs of a man 8″ shorter than him, a disproportionately large chest, a wingspan 3″ longer than his height, hyper-extended joints, and size 14 feet – the perfect, Olympic swimmer body. Your own gift might be your IQ, linguistic ability, musical talent, charm, wit, work ethic, or stress tolerance. Your success depends on identifying and building on your natural strengths.
25% of this formula (some would say more) comes from intense effort and the hard work you put into improving your abilities. Honing your strengths and improving your weaknesses. You either enhance your natural gifts or let them waste away. Hard work is more easily recognized in domains such as education, sports, or music, where you can see the inputs and the direct output. Every great person has devoted years of their life to getting better at and mastering their craft.
The final 25% comes from a set of “enabling factors” that drive extreme success. 5 enabling factors are common to every exceptional human, including:
You can’t choose your genes, but you can certainly decide how hard you work, the characteristics and skills you want to develop and hone. That’s half the equation.
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MINDSET: Train your brain to win
That Time You Messed Up
The reasoning behind why we keep reverting to remembering our old mistakes may lie in psychology, family history, or health issues depending on who you are and what you may remember. Even though that old screw up may have messed up something in the past, by keeping that mistake with you, the damage you are doing to your future is far greater.
When you remember a past mistake (we call them the “nagging doubts”), you make it harder for yourself to move forward. Consciously and unconsciously, you can prevent yourself from making an impactful decision, enter a prosperous new relationship, accept an exciting new opportunity, or take a bold action that could significantly enhance your quality of life. The real mistake is not what happened years ago, it’s letting that incident screw up your future by lamenting on it when you could be focusing on the future.
The next time you need to decide or choose a course of action and those nagging doubts start to creep up, consider only the facts in front of you. What is best for your current situation and your future self? What choice is best going to align with your goals and ambitions? Whatever happened in the past will have no impact on what you do moving forward, unless you choose to let it. So, you can screw up once and learn, or screw up twice and suffer. Or screw up thrice and really suffer! Make the choice to let it the past stay in the past and consider your bright future.
SOCIAL CAPITAL: Build a powerful network
It’s Only 5 Minutes!
Apply this same mentality to your relationships when keeping up with people you know. Conversations don’t have to be long, and you can connect with more people when you spare 5 minutes and not 50. A call is superior to a text because a text is more impersonal and a call gives greater importance than a text. You can even begin the call with a variation of the phrase “I only have five minutes, but I was thinking of you and wanted to hear how you’re doing.” This puts a predetermined end time to the call that you can adhere to in order to keep it short and sweet.
You don’t have to continually tell people you only have 5 minutes to talk but reach out to someone you haven’t spoken to in a while that you’ve been putting off and build that relationship with a small step.
The result? I talk to my grandmother all the time. I almost never talk to my aunt.
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE: Master the soft skills
What is Self-Regulation?
When we think of our potential, we have the power to do almost anything we want. No one will arrest us if we do not show up to work, and no one will scold us for eating something we probably shouldn’t be eating (you may be broke and fat, though). A self-regulated person understands the long term impact of their actions and is disciplined to make choices that lead to a greater future. No one may be forcing you to do something, but you’ll have to face the pied piper sooner or later.
Let’s take the oft-felt emotion of anger. When a situation or individual makes you angry, you are the only person who can stop yourself from losing control and flying into a fit of rage. A self-regulated person knows that even though they are fully capable of this, it will not do them any good. They choose to stay calm not because it is what they want, but because they know it is the right thing to do. This is an “extreme” example as we don’t often feel rage, but it’s important to know that the same self-regulation applies to more mundane situations.
Being self-regulated means you can choose your reaction to a situation before reacting. When analyzing how to best handle something, take into account the short and long term ramifications of each option. Ultimately, you choose the reaction that will be most beneficial to what you are trying to achieve.
FUN STUFF – TUESDAY TRIVIA
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1% BETTER: Improve each day
Google “Productivity Tips” and commit to practicing the first one you read all week.