Maybe you’re feeling a little “off” and can’t seem to pinpoint why. This twilight zone feeling means that you probably need to take a breath and a step back to focus on yourself. Self-love is not merely a state of feeling good. It’s a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological, and spiritual growth.

What exactly does self-love look like?

  • Knowledge: taking the time to know who you are, what you like, and what you don’t like.
  • Compassion: being loving and kind to yourself always in all ways.
  • Forgiveness: forgiving yourself to mistakes or shortcomings and letting go of the hope you can change the past.
  • Self-Care: baths, manicures, reading, writing, cooking, running, organizing, Netflix-ing, sleeping, etc. everything and anything that relaxes you and brings you joy.
  • Commitment: being willing to solely and relentlessly focus on what is healthy and what feels right for you.
  • Inventory: asking yourself, how am I feeling? Does this work for me? What feels true?
  • Slowing Down: being able to recognize what is happening internally and giving yourself permission and grace to take it easy.
  • Acceptance: even in doubt, loving and accepting yourself completely.
  • Boundaries: saying yes when you want to and no when you don’t want to.

Practicing any of these self-love characteristics above might help pull you out of your fog.